Should you tell a guy your true feelings for him? Well, this can be dangerous if there is no established rapport between you; even then it may not work in your best interest. Here are some risk free ways to indicate your interest in someone without dragging your integrity in the dust.
1. Smile at him often
2. Compliment him about the way he looks, dresses, work etc.
3. Play fight with him e.g. Jokingly punch or play a boxing match
4. Help him with some work, project or event he is planning.
5. Listen to him.
6. Challenge him to become a better person.
7. Do not take crap from him. Confront him if he embarrass, belittles or hurt you or other people. He will admire you for standing up to him.
9. Believe in him even when he doubts himself.
10. Be there for him if he is going through a bad batch or rough times.
11. Give him space, don’t crowd him too much.
12. Don’t overwhelm him. Give him a chance to miss you.
13. Make it OK for him to leave if he wants to.
14. If he wants you to, go with him to places like football or fishing.
15. Talk favourably about him to others especially his friends.
i really like this guy but i dnt know how to tell him i like him coz i dont know if he likes me. we always walk past each other in school and smile a each other but i dont know if hes doing it just a friendly smile i carnt really talk to him that much at schoo coz the fact is this lass really dosent get on with me but shes always with him and am i quite shy girl some one give me addvise
Just go up to him tell him that nomatter what you say you wanna stay friends and then ask him out or tell him you like him the worst thing he could do is say no or i dont like you in that way. But if you write a note then he could show all his friends wnd youd be the subject of entertainment for the day. Trust me i know from experience always tell the guy in person that way he doesnt have proof to all his friends. Even if he is a shy guy he most likely will tell his friends. Face-to-face is scary and nerve wracking but it is better. Make sure he doesnt have a girlfriend or he may end up hating you for “tormenting” his girlfriend or he might leave his girlfriend for you and in the long runhe could dump you for another girl. Good Luck!!!
so i like this guy he gives all these signs he likes me & ppl think the same thing …that he does like me but idk sumtymz hes hot then cold with me so idnt rlly know if hes that in to me. he calls me baby we mostly txt everyday & one day we chilled we was ite bc he looked rlly shy! && i tryd so be myself & stay calm cuz i was…lol but he wa shy and quiet…advice pls!!!
hi. i like this guy; hes a best mate of my family friend; he used to/might still like me, my family friends girlfriend has told me he is shy to talk about his feelings for girls; we’re always texting and we have been on a few double dates with my family friend and his girlfriend; i dont know how to tell if he still likes me or how to tell him how i feel without scaring him off and losing our friendship; im not sure how it would work out cause he is always working, working, working; he drives; my family love him; hes already basically part of the family; HELPP!
I am already going out with this guy , but he always tells me really sweet stuff but i dont know any really good stuff to say back ? Any suggestions?
how do u ask a boy out if you r only 10.
I don’t recommend one-on-one dating for 10 year olds. However an easy way to do associate with people you like is simply to invite them to fun events you are having with your friends e.g. party, themeparks, sporting events etc.
I would think that if you are going out with him there must be something about him or his company that you enjoy. What about him or his actions make you feel cool, happy, excited or great. Tell him something like “What I like about you is…” or “I notice that when we are together it makes me feel….”
Well Jess,
A good place to start is to identify how he makes you feel. The without expecting too much simple tell him that you notice that when he is around you feel really happy.
Saying that is revealing the effect he has on you but not asking him to commit to anything, just stating what you feel. It can be challenging to talk about your feeling but it can be a good way to start being honest to yourself and others
Hope that helps
AM HAVING A PROBLEM, I MET THIS GUY FOR 5 YEARS, it was love FOR FIRST TIME, I REALLY LOVED HIS SO SO MUCH. NOW I MADE A MISTAKE by ENGAGING this guy, he convinced me to marry him, and i fell for it. now i regret it so much. WHAT DO I DO NOW. I LOVE THE 1 THAT I MET 5 YEARS AGO MORE THAN THIS ONE AM ENGAGED TO, AM CONFUSED.
Hello confused,
My quick suggestion is to take some time out. Get a sheet of paper and make 3 columns. At the top of the first column write
Qualities I want in a husband
. At the top of the second and third columns write the names of the two guys.
In the first column write a list of all the things you are looking for in a man/husband/life time partner. Make the list as long as possible. The make a tick against each quality under the names if the guys has the quality. You should then tally the total and see who has the most of the qualities you are looking for.
Speak to someone you trust about this – preferable a mature/wise person. Listen to your heart. Look into the future and try to see how your family will be like 5-10 years with each person. Then make a decision based on what you know is best for you in the future.
If you decide to give up the present relationship, it is easier to end an engagement than a marriage.
Good luck and do let me know how it worked out!
I like this guy and were like best friends we like laugh and smile alot together but I don’t know if he likes me or what all I know is that I love him with all my heart what should I do???
Im dating a boy. But, he lives far away from me and i only see him in the summer time and i can only text him. How do i know hes not dating anyone else? I love him soooo much and i want to tust him. What should i do?
I have this guy, who I always say I dont like but I always dream about him and I always think about him. Everybody says were perfect but hes all like shu up like he likes me but Im really confused. How do I say I like him without scareing him?
I have this guy who ive liked but I lie and say I dont like him, but how do I ASK HIM OUT?
i like this guy iv liked him 8 years i know a long time but 8 years ago we were 4 but i liked him then and i still do now he is in my class i was chuffed when the teacher said sit beside him and for that whole day we were talkin and talkin and talkin my friend even got jelous cos i was talkin 2 him more and we continued 2 talk day after day and we live really close our roads face each other kinda and we both get the bus sometimes i see him sometimes i dont and well 2day on the bus wewere talkin and we were talkin about people liken people and he said i dont like any1 in this school and i said me 2 exept for 1 and he asked me who and i said im not telling u so we continued talkin and as it came to the bus stop he said that a girl used to like him this girl used to be my old bff and i smiled and said yeah i know and i said did u ever like her and he said never thaught about it but on teh bus before he said that i was gonna say i like him but i chicken out and idk how 2 tell him plus im afraid we will feel awkward in school and i realllly like him and hwe always messes and jokes with me and hes soo funny and i even go red when i talk to him and we have told each other things that only few people know . but if i was 2 tell him im afraid he would tell his friends and life would be soooooooooo sad in school any advice ??
Here is my situation I really like this guy and I don’t know if I should tell him. Here is the thing we used to work together untile like a month ago and I told my self that is I stopped working there well I was going to tell him that I liked him but it has been really hard to tell him because I don’t know if he likes me to. But lately I been wanting to tell him because he is all I think about. What should I do??
what if he lives far far away from me?
I really like this guy but i dont know if he likes me can you help? I mean we are in all the same classes, we talk all the tine, and share tons of laughs. I really like him but i sent him hits and he’s not getting the message! How do i get his attention?
Ok so i really likes this guy. The other day, me and my friend and him were on fb. He told my friend that he liked her! What do i do?
Hi Hilton,
I enjoyed reading your article and I have a question for you. I know a guys for almost 10 years and as far as I remember he has been interested in me. I did not go out with him because I was in a relationship. Now, I’m not with anyone and I saw him when I was spending my break at TX. He is still interested in me and we had a nice time together. Then, we saw each other again in a work related event and we spent some more time together. At the end of the day, when we were saying goodbye to go to our cities, he came for a kiss. I didn’t see that coming. I thought it was a hug and I hugged him. I know he thinks I turned him down, but it wasn’t my intention. He hesitates to call me since then and I don’t know how to tell him I like him too. Is it too late? I appreciate any help.
I really lile this guy since i was little but whem i was little i just liked him now i realized that i loved him its to late coz now he has a girlfriend and i want to tell him but dont scare him off .
I really like his company i am 12 and he is 12 too. Ibe known him sinve i was a babu literaly and how i said i want to tell him without losing his friendship or scaring him off
Thks <3
Hmmm 12 years!!!!
You do seem to have a deep and long interest in this person, at this age it will be good to still maitain a platonic relationship with him until you are much older. Trust me its really difficult to have a mature romantic relationship this early.
Hilton
Ps If you still feel this way contact me in 4 years time
Hi Sadiegirl,
This guy has been turn down by you for so long that any indication of rejection will crush him. The onus is now on you to show him that its safe. To do this you must initiate the calls and contact, give him compliments and congratulate him for anything he has accomplished. Tell him it was really resfreshing meeting up with him indicate it might be a nice thing to meet up again sometime.
Since he has natural interest in you, I don’t hink it would be hard.
Do let me know how it goes!
Go and get would you want my dear before someone else lays a claim to it
Hilton
Hi Laney,
One way of asking someone out without scaring them off is simply to invite them to a group outing or a function that you will be attending even if he isn’t there. e.g. you might want to mention that some friends of yours are going ice-skating and suggest it would be fun. Tell him he could come along if he wants to – that takes the pressure off both of you to have to respond to one-on-one dating
Hi Charlie,
One of better ways of getting to know someone and testing the waters is to ask them to help you with some sort of project or activity. While doing things together you will have lots of opportunity to talk about all sort of things including matters of the heart.
Hilton
WOW those tips were really helpful i just hope when i try this it would ACUTULLY work and help me….
well wish me luck you guys out there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hi Gabby,
Distance relationship is always challenging. I am not sure why you can only text him and not telephone, or skype. The mere fact that you are asking the question suggests that you have some doubts? Sometiimes it maybe be worth it to let him know that you really love him and want to trust him fully, but there are some niggly doubts in your mind. Be sure to let hime know that you are not accusing him of anything but cheating in a deal breaker for you.
Hope that helps
Hilton
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well , i wont say my name or my age but i’ll describe my problem. i’ve been dating this AMAZING guy for 2 months and he cheats on me , what do i do?
I like this guy but I don’t know how to talk to him cause like he’s popular and I’m not but we text sometimes and even though I’m a girl he likes to play football with me but I can’t tell if he likes me or not or if it’s just him being nice
my boyfriend his having hard times, one of his family members past away. i want for him to know that im there for him but i try to but its seem like his not taking it. also he got mad at me cuz i was stupid, but i try to apologise to him but he said it was ok, but i know its not ok i want him to feel like his everything to me cuz he is. also i haven’t or we haven’t said i love you to each other and i want to tell him but in a especial way… any ideas?
I really like this guy in my class and i think i am falling in love with him but im not entirely sure how i should tell him. I hav already writen a song about him so i cant sing it other wise he’ll know. SO (getting to the point) i neeed to tell him… but how?
Hi Katie,
If you like someone its very difficult not to show it. People tend to pick up that you like them just as much that you can tell if someone like you. You may want to wait a while and gauge his reponse to you before telling him
Hilton
You need to be clear if this is something that you can live with or if it is a deal breaker. You need to let him know that this something you you will not tolerate in a relationship.
Hi Maria,
Youf friend is going through some emotionally trying times right now so it may not be a good time to be pushing the relationship. I suggest you just be available for him if you wants to talk, a hug or even a cry.
Hilton
I am in love with a guy who doesn’t even know about that . We know each other for almost 10 years and always used to be in touch . finally I will meet him tomorrow and He is 13 years older than me but I love him so much . I dont know how to say him ….but I cannot handle it anymore . I should let him know that HOW MUCH I LOVE him …….any help ?
hi hilton , I love this guy so much I see him often because he is our neibor , he is also studing in my school and he was going to the same bus as i did . he smile at me often. I speak with him a little. the problem that the other class are thinking that i love another guy . i want to tell him that i love but i am too shy and i am afraid that the boys well disturb him and make silly faces infront him . i really love him a lot but how can i know?????
Hi
When you are really in love with someone, its very difficult not to show it. Somehow they can usually pick up that you have some liking for them.
Hilton
Hi Eva,
Do you think this guy likes you? If he does there is no harm in telling him that you will like to share your life with someone as wonderul as him.
hilton
hi!!!!
I really like this guy at my local church, he doesn’t come to my school and we dont talk to each other, except he knows my dad. Sometimes I notice him looking at me so when i look back, he turns his head around. I mean Ive liked other guys before but this time I really REALLY like this guy. I’ve been liking him since 2 years and now my feelings for him has become into a fully grown love. I also have him on facebook, but im too much of a coward to tell him my feelings online. Plus, he’s pretty popular. PLEEASE HELP!!!
I was with this lad for over a year and then i dumped him in an awful way. i have tried to move on but i just can’t seem to get over him. I’m scared he hates me and will never talk to me again. How do i tell him i still love him? Please help xxxxx
The best way to approach this is to start talking to him casually again. See if he responds to ordinary conversation and then you can take it from there.
Hilton
Hi,
As simple as this sounds, all you need to do is to start a conversation – any ordinary conversation – with him. Once you both get talking as friends then you can decide what to do. But nothing happens until you start to talk.
Hilton
Instead of doing all that just say you love him.If he really does love you, he won’t run off.by the way, I’m 15.
Basically, I really like this guy at my school but he’s in the year below and so we don’t really no that much about eachother, and we don’t talk face-to-face unless I call him over but we talk on facebook almost every other night for ages. All my friends think he likes me and one of them asked him what he would say if I asked him out and he said ” I dn probully no but only coz I don’t know much about her” but we both went to a party and we hugged and he was dancing near us all night and my ftiends think he wanted to dance with me :L!!!! Basically I really want to tell him how I feel but I don’t no how to say it without seeming silly.
Hi hilton , i’m 15 years old and , So I just came across your site and seems like youu can really give great advice. So here’s my problem.. So me & this guy started dating & so he said we should take a break to get to know eachother a little better , but he doesn’t talk to me anymore , and well I really miss him.. What can or should I do ??
Hi Sam,
Before you start telling him how you feel you may want to simply start to talk to him and become a casual friend first. After getting to know him and giving him an opportunity to get to know you personally – off line – you can then decide to let him know how you feel.
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i love an guy, he is friend of my broher in law,i was first who sent text message, everytime i starded to send message as friendly we are speaking different language, i am from french and i don t speak well english and him bt him speak good english
so the problem is how i can tell him i love u
I met this guy 3 months ago and I believe I am in love. He is like no man I have ever dealt with. He is just amazing to me. When I’m around him, I feel as though I’m on another planet, in another world. He makes my heart smile. I know that he really likes me as well, but he suffers with trust issues from past relationships. He says he trust me and that he knows I wouldn’t hurt him, but he the thought still lingers that it cold happen because of his past. HELP!!!!!