Should you tell a guy your true feelings for him? Well, this can be dangerous if there is no established rapport between you; even then it may not work in your best interest. Here are some risk free ways to indicate your interest in someone without dragging your integrity in the dust.
1. Smile at him often
2. Compliment him about the way he looks, dresses, work etc.
3. Play fight with him e.g. Jokingly punch or play a boxing match
4. Help him with some work, project or event he is planning.
5. Listen to him.
6. Challenge him to become a better person.
7. Do not take crap from him. Confront him if he embarrass, belittles or hurt you or other people. He will admire you for standing up to him.
9. Believe in him even when he doubts himself.
10. Be there for him if he is going through a bad batch or rough times.
11. Give him space, don’t crowd him too much.
12. Don’t overwhelm him. Give him a chance to miss you.
13. Make it OK for him to leave if he wants to.
14. If he wants you to, go with him to places like football or fishing.
15. Talk favourably about him to others especially his friends.
Hi Fafi,
Love knows no language. Your interaction with him will show him that you care. Continue to speak to him and give him compliments and great feedback.
Hilton
Hi First Love,
Trust is something that is built over time. There is no short cut. Avoid trying to convince him that you are trust worthy instead act in trust worthy ways.
Hilton
To hilton
I love this boy, i meeet him about a year ago and i thought he was like every other boy i had met, but it appears not. He is nice and kind to me and always is there for me when i need him. All my friends think we are made for eachother, but i dont no if he likes me. I want to tell him but i dont no wht to say, HELP ME!!!!!!!
Hi Samantha,
Usually when we really like someone they can sense that you like them by your body language and how you act with them. For now its ok just to give him compliments and tell how happy he makes you feel.
Coming out and telling him directly may spoil the suspense for him. Believe me men do need the suspense.
H
Im 15 and I have known this guy for about a year and I want to tell him I like him. The only problem is that he doesn’t know me very well and we don’t hang out much. Also, I’m a more anti-social person so I don’t do things with large groups. I want to ask this guy out but I have no idea how without sounding creepy doing it. Also, he’s in 6 of my 8 classes at school so he’s driving me nuts because I suck at talking to people… HELP!
My crush and I became friend since last month.We are very a close friend and my friends said he never close to a girl since elementary school and right now we’re middle school students.But one day,he tease me that I like him but I deny it because I afraid that he would hate me.Then he’s attitude toward me changes and he was ignoring me.Even I said sorry to him,he just ask me about homework and that shows he still a different person from last time.Last week,I had a fight with him and his friend because his friend called me ‘elephant’ and my crush was laughing so hard.Actually I don’t really care about that but that time I was in bad mood.Right now,our teacher change our seats to infront row and usually I saw he looked at me and immediately turn his head to the other side when I caught him looked at me.Sometimes if I joke and play with his friend,he would stare at us with an angry look and even my friend said he glared at me and his friend when I talked happily to him.I want to say sorry again to him and tell him that I like him.But does he likes me?My friends said maybe he likes me too because he shows the signs but I afraid that I’m the only one who thought he likes me..
(Someone please help me and sorry for bad grammar.)
Hi Complicated,
The best way to take this forward is to try and engage through some of the work and projects you do through your classes. Talk to him and find out which classes he really good at and ask for his help. If you are better at some subjects then you can offer some help.
This will help you to relate to and with him while taking the pressure off having to ask him out. It will also set the stage for you to get to know each other better.
Hilton
Hi Irma,
All is not loss. You might be getting too hang up on one single event. If I were you I would simply forget the incident, ignore his attitude and begin to laugh and talk to him like you use to.
Based on what you have said he seems to be looking for a way to get back in with you even if he is pretending that he is not. This migh be hard for a teenager like you but its also part of becoming a mature person.
Hilton
There’s this guy on my bus that I like. I fell for him the moment I saw him. He went out went my friend for 3 or 4 days so he wouldn’t hurt her feelings. I’m wanting and I’m ready to tell him but I’m scared out of my wits. Someone also put a love note in my locker but I have no clue who it was and I don’t know how to find out. Please help me!!!!
Hi Hilton,
First off, I want to say great advice! But, I have a question. I have a friend and I am so in love with him. He is the first guy I’d fallen for since my tragic first love. We have known each other for about three years and hang out all the time. We have gone on trips together and weekend get aways and all! Yes, we have been intimate more than a few times but I stopped because I couldn’t take not being with him. He works full time (his job has him travel everywhere), and he goes to school full time. That was the reason he said he did not want to get in a relationship, which I can understand. But, now he is about to graduate and I want to just express everything to him!!! Would this be the right time to tell him how I feel or is it a lost cause? I really feel he is the one!
Hi Mayh.
It might be a great time to revisit the possibility of a relationship, However you need to find out where he is at as he may or may not be at the same level of emotional attachment to you.
There is a danger of coming on too strong if you suddenly dump your intense feelings of love on him
Start slow and build up from there. Remember he still has to work to get you, don’t hand everything over to him on a silver plate. That is one of the greatest mistakes modern women make
H
Hi. I really love my best guy friend, and he calls me “baby”, “beautiful”, “sexy”, and his girlfriend. And he says he loves me. Please tell me what this means, I really love him and I wanna know of he actually feels the same way
i really really like this guy but im 70% sure that he does not like me. but i really want to tell him before he leaves becaue he is leaving my school next year.
HELP i like this guy his name is Diego but well i dont think he likes me because he talks and hangs out with all the g8rls exept for me and im really bummed out.And this other guy Josh but hes realy cute i think i might have a chance its about 50/50 i have to wear a dress to school for promotion so im hoping they both notice me
i meant girls not g8rls
so i have had a crush on this guy since 5th grade (we’re both in 7th now) and just this year i started to think about love. i love him. He’s extrrmely nice and caring, but here’s the catch. ive known him for a while and he’s been my best friend since we met, but we’re not dating. he knows i used to like him, but i didnt tell him that i still do. i want to tell him face to face, because its really special and rare that someone would do that and im just that rare kindof girl ;). He doesnt email much or text, and i really miss him. I miss him so much, that i just want him to come pver to my house and give me a big hug. its over the sunmer, so i dont get to see him that much. i might see him once. can you help give me advice on how to tell him i love him without scareing him? much appriciated. 🙂
Okay, so I met this guy when we we’re both 10 years old. I’ve always like him. But from 10-15 (years old) we we’re both hard and mean on each other. From 16-18 (years old) we started to keep everything on ”safe-mode”. From 19-21 (years old) we started to become more friendly.
From 21 to 23 (years old-today) I started to have strong feelings for him. People around us, noticed something special going on. Even if there wasn’t anything at all. I invited him to my friend’s wedding, I told him that either ”yes” or ”no” I would not mind at all. Here’s the day, that I’m still waiting for an answer. He told me that he needed to practice more his english. I passed him DVD’s (learn)so he could start with something, even offered him to help him with what I could. And yet nothing.
When we bump into each other, he’s very friendly and says hi but doesn’t make an effort for a conversation like before. When I’ve been at his place, he’s totally another person. Sweet, caring, and talks even more than I do, even calls me by my nickname instead of saying my full name like he tends to do in public.
Seriously, I have tried to win more of his friendship, but yet to see how he acts, it makes me want to move on. But yet, I wonder, should I tell him how I feel?
We’ve started by being mean, then argue, then going with the flow, friendly, flirting(touching), and now almost nothing. I really don’t know what to think about him. I really really like him, but I don’t wan’t to appear dumb.
Please, could you give me some advice? Or even share with me your point of view?
Thanks in advance.
Hi Betsy,
Seems as if you are both being cagey with each other. Could be that he is a bit unsure about how you feel about him too. While it would be good to have his friendship I think you should also have your options open. Feel free to explore other possibilities too.
You are slowly becoming too hooked on him alone – that is a very vulnerable place to be
H
I really like this guy and i’ve know him for 3 years, Hes cute funny and popular and im not popular. Im not sure if he likes me because some times I catch him starting at me then when I look he smiles then don’t stop looking for a couple more seconds then sometimes when I try talk to him he just ignors me and just says Go away, then sometime we end up talking about the guy im acctually going out with that I want to dump for this guy Then he comes close up to me and ends up where I am and always redoes him hair when I walk in the room. I message him on our school messageing site saying I like him, I can’t ask him out because his ex is my enimie and she hates me , I hate her and she will get all her friends to gang up on me. What do I do?
Also hes always asking about me and this other guy.
Hi. After a long period of getting over a relationship, I met someone and became involved for the past two weeks. The only thing is he is leaving to do a monthlong program in costs rica and then seek employment teaching english there.
Ive fallen for him hard. I can see love in his eyes and how he acts, but my friends that have known him for many years say they have never seen him in a relationship. They say they have never seen the sweet side that has come out around me.
I really don’t want a long distance relationship, but I don’t want him to go and not know how I feel. Were very sweet to each other, and I feel like we could really have something beautiful but neither of us communicates how we feel at all.
Keeping all the love i feel inside is causing me inner turmoil and pain. I started smoking again! Not sure what to do. Please offer your opinion?
Btw I’m 27 and he’s 28. We’ve been spending time together/staying with each other when we are able to. I don’t think I’ve ever felt closer with a guy in all ways except this communicating about us/future block.
Hi katelyn,
I am happy that you have found the beginnings of love. I think it is very important that he verbalises his intention. This is crucial in the development of a healthy relationship. You both are responding to each other and acting as if you are in a love without consciously dealing with it. This is dangerous as you may have something in your mind that is completely different to what he has in his head. Untill you both have a conversation about it you can never be sure.
H
🙂 thank you. Your words ring true and give me strength to overcome fear rather than just go along and feeling stressed/icing him out.
He also doesnt text back for hours. I take this as we’re on different pages in how we approach relationships. Not good for my mental/emotional health.
I’m 12 and there is this boy I like who’s 13 but we live quite fat apart so I can only see him every summer?? We aren’t together and we neva hav been but our families are close friends and I don’t want it to brake our friendship… What do I do??!
Hi Paige,
I understand that you may have strong emotional feeling but Wait until you are an adult. Things will love far different then. Example you may want to drive however the law sees that it is best to make people wait until they are at least 16/17 years old. There is a strong reason for that.
H
im gay and i how do i think this will work
ive liked this guy for years now. i see him every day, hes on my school bus (im 15 by the way), he lives in my village, and im going to france and the usa on the same trips as him, and im worried im gonna mess up :/ when i look at him he holds my eyes for longer than he does other people and ive been told thats a start. what do i do?? i want to know for sure that he feels the same about me, but asking him face-to-face is not an option. we’re good friends and all, but i dont want to ruin what we have already xx
Hi Shygirl
I understand the need to be certain of what he feels about you. however he will let you know when he is ready in some way or the other, no need to force the issue.
All you need to do is to relax. Sometimes you may want to make yourself a bit scarce and unavailable to see how he responds.
H
Hi David,
Just to say i am not an expert in gay relationships, the stuf I write is geared towards people who are in heteroseexual relationships.
H
hi dear hilton sir.
fristly sorry to say for my poor english.
i am a guy 24 years old . i think i am so diffarents person in the world.
why iam get afrid / shy to tell any gril ( my hard deply talk) like i love you.
i last two exprience 2002 to until 2006 i every time think some one .finnaly we has lot of chance to mett but why i can’t expline somthing.at last we have lost.. also same thing 2010 – 2012 . but i really miss my flash back. so i see my futer is dark.. any sujetion for me plz.
you are forgetting number eight. but other than that. this is really good information to use.
I like a guy in my class. Usually we have a small convo, then go the same way together. But last thurs, i saw him go to another way and waiting for someone, at that time, im not sure. Then this friday, i finally found out that hes waiting for a Girl. :(( i was walking behind them, and my tears suddenly comes down. I think like there is no more hope for me.!
What should i do? Should i tell him how i feel? But how?
Hi Emily
It may be difficult because of your strong feelings, there is nothing stopping you from being friends with him for starters
Hilton
Ok, so I am really in a tough spot. I really like this guy, I think I might even love him… But the problem is that I think one of my friends likes him too. I really don’t know if she is being serious or not, because all of my friends always joke around with her, cause she always hangs out with him, that she likes him and stuff. But she hasn’t denied it so im kind of worried. I’m scared to ask my friend if she likes him, and I really don’t know what to do. I’m not entirely sure if he likes me, but he is really nice and polite and funny. And I’m too shy to talk so him, so I’m scared if I tell him how I feel I will hurt my friends feelings, and then what if he doesn’t feel the same about me?
I really enjoyed reading your arrival. Granted I’m a bit older than most of your readers. I am an adult with a child and one marriage that ended sourly. I just got the final hope to try again after nearly four years. The problem, he is a co-worker. We don’t directly work together but that’s how we met
It started out as a Fwb type of thing no dating period were his words and now a month later its if we date… My mind is torn due to the hot and cold signals. I fell for him hard and now I’m not sure how exactly to tell him because I’m not pushing the relationship thing on him. He and I act like a couple even his mom doesn’t know why we don’t just date. I’m very laid back and give him space let him have Guy time ect. I know he has feelings for me but how can I get him to open up just enough to show him that my love For him is real and I’m never going to hurt him intentionally?
Hi I am 11 and I just fell in love with a boy in my sister class and he is in the same grade as me and my friends have been telling me we would make a perfect couple but I don’t know how to ask him out or even tell him I love him.
WHAT DO I DO?
Hi Hannah
At age 11 you should just become your his friend. Friendship is a good base for developing relationship later in life. although you may not realize this your age is not good to start a romantic relationship. It is almost like getting a drivers licence, you need to be a certain age to start to drive. Similarly you do not have the maturity to deal with all the things that come with a relationship
Hilton
I fancy this boy at school he is such a cutie his name is Taylor Stone
but he totally forgets I’m there but I have just copied down your 15 ways
to get to tell a boy you like him hopefully they will work on me and him
Ok. So iv been seeing my ex neighbor for about 6 months now and we catch up a lot. We drink wine on the beach and hold hands watching movies we have a great time when we are together. The problem is he’s 20 years older than me im 22 he’s 42, we have never had sex but he only wants me to perform oral sex on him, he says I’m unhealthy and unfit and when I said “I don’t think I’m fat” he said “well good for you”.. ( I’m not fat at all) he will not perform oral sex on me he says “not yet” I feel like he is using me but I asked him and he said ” do u really think I’m that shallow” which to me he still didn’t answer the question. He says he likes me a lot but wants to keep it casual, which is fine but why won’t he be intimate with me the way I want too instead of the way he wants to? I’m a big girl I can handle the truth all my friends have said leave him but what can I say I’m hooked on him. I need desperate helpful advise please help.. 🙂
Hi,
I like this guy and he told me who he likes, which is the person who i completely hate, he is funny and kind and he just wishes that he could be dead because nothing awesome is happening in his life. I tried your 15 ways and they don’t work!!! Please Help Me!
Katie
PS: we are both 11 years old!
Hi Hilton,
I told my male friend that I love him. We have spent a lot of time together especially on weekends. This is so out of character for me because men I have been with in a relationship tell me they love me first. Yes I am older 43, I did not want to wait to tell him I love him, life is too short. What is your take?
Hi XMLA,
Based on what you have shared it seems as if you want to be more intimate and emotional with this person who only wants you to give him physical release through oral sex. Your contact with him is causing you to bond however he is not bonding at the same rate.
You need to decide if you can live with this kind of relationship? Maybe you need to pull back and make it clear that you are happy to fulfill his needs but you have needs that must be fulfilled too. If not walk even that you feel strongly for him
H
Hi Katie
The person you are talking about seem to need some professional help, if you have done you best do let an adult with experience help him
H
Hi Tracy,
Power to you. If you are comfortable with this then it is great that you can be open and honest with your feelings.
Just be open and not be too dependent on the outcome. Make it OK for him to respond in what ever way he wants, however let him know that will not influence your admiration/love for him.
Hilton
Hey, well theres this guy i like. and were both in this program for criminal justice, to become in the unit when were older. and i dont really know him that well. we will just smile at each other from time to time, but i dont know if it is a friendly smile. the program we are in there is no dating permitted. unless its outside the program. and i dont know him outside it. he is a higher rank then i am and he can tell me what to do weather or not i like it.but the only time i talk to him is when i text him and tell him that im going to show up at the next meet. and i wanna talk to him other then the program, but i am soo shy and cant take getting shot down if i do talk to him. because if it dont work out im stuck in the program for a longg time. please help me. i am freaking out, and my friends cant help. thankyou p.s im 15 & he’s 16.
Ashley,
Based on the program you are in it is a great risk to try to initiate anything romantic. I think it is best to get through the program and then try and make external connection with this person.
H
Hi !
I really need help there’s a boy in my class he is cute but he’s quite popular and class clown he always sit next to me and hugs me every time he sees me,makes me laugh picks up things I drop but he never says who. He loves but he always go red when my friends say do you love me ( which is me) I need help I’m scared to ask him out he talks to me a lot and does fake boxing matches so theres some connection, thanks!
Alannah,
All the signs so that he seems to like you. I will simply continue to be his friend without pushing it. The point is to make it safe and encouraging for him to open up to you.
If he does not make a move in 4-6 weeks then you need to explore other options
Hilton