“How do you actually attract a man or even seduce a man?” Katrina asked when she heard I was a relationship coach. You may be also wondering the same

Before I answer this, may I say that the word seduction may have negative connotation with a lot of people. The word connotes images of stripping, lap and pole dancing. It conjures pictures of skimpily dressed women who sexually flirt and tease men.

For the records let me say that this is not necessarily so. For the purposes of this article we will use the word attract instead of seduce. At any rate every woman desires to be attract and sexually appealing to men.

That said,  there is a way to attract a man (seduce) without being sleazy, tacky or being a tramp.

If you want to be the person that men find attractive, appealing and desirable then read on.

First you must understand that being attractive does not only have to do with physical appeal (dress, body, makeup, hair etc). That is only part of it – and a small part I may add. Beauty attracts the eyes but character secures the heart.

Powerful “can’t-get-you-out-the-mind” all starts with you. Yes to attract a man you need to have the right mind set. If you want to get a man hooked on you, wanting to stick around you and coming back to you every time you must realize this: Your attitude about yourself will condition how he thinks and treats you.

Here are several things that will drastically make a man respect and see you as differently (special) from all other women.

Elegance

Elegance is behaving in a way that put you above the common class of people. You speak properly and know how to conduct yourself in company. You are cultured.

speak properly. Try and master the language that you speak as people will judge you based on how you speak. Learn etiquette and manners, as these will help you to conduct yourself in a manner that men would be delighted to take you out. This will help you to attract a man or the man of your dreams.

Internal locus of control

Wow that is a fancy name for simply not being controlled by external circumstances. You are not fazed by what people think about you; you do not easily fly off the handle when things upset you. You manage your emotions well. This simple makes people (not only men) have high regard and respect for you.

You have a mind of your own. You have your own ideas and opinions. You can agree if something makes sense to you buy you can also calmly explain why you differ with his ideas.

Mystique

If it is easy for men to figure you out then they will find you flat and boring. You will find it hard to attract a man

So you should not be always available for him or his plans.

You keep him trying to wonder what makes you tick by being rather mysterious.

Revel in your femininity

Men are blown away with that which is different from them – femaleness. So embrace your womanhood and let it ooze out of your pores. You will attract men like bees to honey.

This does not mean you have to be weak or a floor mat. You can be female and strong. In fact you feminine essence is so powerful that you can literally capture men with it.

How can you be feminine you ask?

Never try to compete with men, its not worth it. He can be right and you can be smart.

Ask him to do things even when you are perfectly capable of easily doing them.

Let him display his gentleman like graces. If he does not open the door, stand patiently and wait. He will catch on and do it. Then gracefully thank him and let him know that you think he is such a gentleman.

So you see, to attract a man is not really as mysterious you you thing. To find out more on how to get the man of your dreams check out this powerful program.