If your husband yells at you, it is important to remain calm and try to de-escalate the situation. Take a deep breath and try to remain composed. Speak in a calm and respectful tone and ask him to explain why he is angry. Listen to his concerns and try to understand his perspective. If the situation is escalating, it may be best to remove yourself from the situation and take a break.
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If your husband is yelling at you, it is important to take a step back and assess the situation. Try to remain calm and take a few deep breaths. If possible, try to talk to your husband in a calm and respectful manner. Ask him why he is yelling and try to understand his perspective. If the situation is escalating, it may be best to take a break and come back to the conversation when both of you are feeling calmer. If the yelling continues, it may be important to
What NOT to do when your husband yells at you
Before I tell you what to do if someone yells at you let me tell you 3 things not to do
- 1 Do not shout, scream or yell back. you may have heard the same you cannot fight Fire with Fire it’s only Leeds to me or fire.
- Do not comply, suck up or acquiesce just to please your husband. this only empowers him to continue that this type of strategy to manage you
- Do not cower or run away in fear and intimidation. this again only gives him ammunition to continue to rule console and dominate you
What to do when your husband yells at you
1. Remain calm and speak in a low, even tone.
2. Acknowledge his feelings and validate his experience.
3. Ask open-ended questions to better understand the situation and his perspective.
What should you do instead, when people shout and scream and yell at you
S.T.O.P
S – stop.
Stop yourself from reacting. When someone screams, yells and shouts at you there is a natural reaction to defend ourselves by yelling and screaming back at them. A whole range of emotions courses through our system and many times we automatically react.
We begin to think and tell ourselves things like;
- Who do you think you are?
- I’m not going to let you get away with making me feel dumb or stupid or less than
Emotions take over and we say and do things that later we are sorry that we did.
When we stop, we pause, we check ourselves, we allow a brief period to recapture, and take full control of all of our emotions and feelings, rather than allowing them to say and do things that may not be appropriate. So when you’re triggered by someone yelling and screaming at you always hit the pause button.
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