How can you tell if you boyfriend is really into you? Is he playing games, messing around, taking you for a ride or does he really genuinely love you?
Here are 12 ways to tell if your boyfriend really loves you or is “just not into you”:
- He would warmly, admiringly and longingly look into your eyes, face and body from time to time.
- He would go out of his way to do little things to bring a smile on your face and make you feel happy (anything from sticking a note in your bag, buying a funny little toy or turning up on your door steps when you least expect him to).
- He would be always talking about you to his friends and family or anyone who would care to listen. Interestingly he would make you to be larger than life — Gods gift to the earth. These people will mention that they have heard about you when they meet you.
- He would want to introduce you and show you off to his friends, family and the whole world — you would be like his little trophy.
- He would always want to be with you or around you and hardly want to leave when its time for him to go.
- He hates it when people talk negatively about you and would defend you to the point of physically fighting to defend your reputation (hopefully it never comes to this. Don’t always depend on this as a proof of love).
- He avoids hurting you and if he unwittingly hurts you he apologises profusely and attempt never to let it happen again.
- Comments on how lucky he is to get a girl like you in his life.
- Compliments the way you look, the things you do and the skill/talents you display.
- Wants the best for you and encourages you to grow and develop so that you can become the best you can be.
- He is not afraid to challenge you when you are wrong or doing something that isn’t right.
- He calls, text, IM and want to meeting up with you as regularly as he can.
Ps. I just remember a couple more
- He wants know (in direct and discreet ways) what you think about him, how he looks and what he does.
- He seeks your advice and suggestions on things he is doing and decisions he wants to make.
- He takes your advice/suggestions and implements them.
- He is polite to your friends and respects your parents.
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Hi,
I have a bf that ive been with for a while and he’s been acting weird. He barly talks to me and he doesnt even touch me ( doesnt hold my hand, doesnt hug me). He has been hanging out with his friends to much and flirting with alot of girls. I’m afraid that he still likes his ex or that he is cheating on me. Im scared. Please help
hi
my friend recently started dating this guy named austin and i fell in love with him, and i have a boyfriend too. im so confused right now and dont know what to do. Help?
Hi Evana,
Sometimes our feelings attract us to other people who are not right for you. At this point you need to listen your head and not your heart. You need to to what is right to do and not follow your feelings. Your feelings would land you in a big mess, so do what you know to be right, which is to stick with your current boyfriend and not get involved with your friends BF.
If you have to you may need to cut him off and avoid interacting wiht him
H
Hi Glennda
Sorry to hear about the grief you are experiencing with your BF. You deserve better but only you can make it clear what you are expecting. Although this is challenging to do I would suggest that instead of getting all wound up about it you too start to enjoy yourself with your friends and even start doing things that will improve your life e.g. go to classes, take up sports etc.
Do Not let your life revolve around your boy friend only. This has help lots of people in your situation and you may find it very useful too. Have a look at it here.
so my bf and I have been dating for almost 7 years will be 7 years this sunday. We have 2 kids both boys. ages 4 and 11 months. we have lived together since 2 months of dating. he tells me he loves me n texts me n calls me on his breaks. he kisses me every morning before he leaves n he kisses me as soon as he gets home n before he goes to bed. i recently told him i thought i was fat he said no ur not ur perfect the way u are, i said well obviously u havent taken a good look lately and he said yeah i have and i love the way u look. he wants to snuggle and talk and all that good stuff. However out in public he doesnt want to do PDA. also the biggest problem is his cousin gf is all the time flirting with him, he dont flirt back he just ignores her, she acts like im not even in the room when he is home, she is always asking where he is if he is not home when his cousin and her stop by. the other day she rubbed mud on his leg near his crotch area and looked right at me after she did it and he got up and moved away from her. she is always trying to stand close to him when he is home, when she brings her kid up with her she tells her kid to tell him bye but ignores me the whole time she is there, the other night she came up to borrow a pack of cigs and said well where is D at. his cousin her bf said prob in bed it is 11 at night, she said well go get him up i need at pack of cigs. his cousin said well E (me) can get them. The girl said no D knows where they are at, and his cousin replied so does E (me) considering she smokes too. She replied oh well he would be able to find the faster then her. to that her bf just looked at her funny and then looked at me and said go get her a pack of cigs please. I have pointed these things out to my bf and said she is interested in u and u should tell her to stop it. He always replies im not worried about it becuase I am not interested in her I love u and always will love u.
The problem is it worries and aggrevates me even if it doesnt bother him. I trust him fully, i just dont trust her. What is ur opinion should I trust him or not trust him should i let the stuff with his cousins gf go or what should i do, i am not sure at all how i should go about this. Thank u.
Okay, so here’s the deal. My boyfriend is a wonderful person. I love him so very much. We have been together since DEC 28,2011 a few months after we started dating he asked me to move in with him. I agreed and we have been living together since. Its been almost 2 years now and he still hasn’t told me he loves me and I have not told him that I love him. I’m afraid to be the first to say it. I believe he loves me but I am not 100% sure. He just doesn’t show those kinds of emotions easily. He has never given me a reason to think he doesn’t love me he has just never said it. We have even discussed marriage and children when he gets home. He is military and deployed. That is the only reason I so wish I knew for sure. Its just a little harder not knowing now that he is across the world from me. I just need some advice, if you could tell me what you think I’d appreciate it very much.
And he has also taken me to meet his family and he met mine. He also has two beautiful very young children.
Hi Liz,
I actually don’t think you have a problem with your bf. I think you should have a straight woman to woman talk with her. Let her know that you see and understand clearly what she is doing and you will not tolerate it. If that doesn’t help speak to her bf about her advances on your bf. It may even be that you may have to ask her not to come to your place.
H
Hi Anistasia,
Clearly hearing the words “I love you” means a lot to you. It seems from all his actions that he does love you and you love him too. You are both in a committed relationship so it would not put you at risk to tell him how much you admire and love him. If he does not respond with the same words it would not mean he does not love you – him may find it difficult to say. He will eventually say it when he feels safe enough to do so.
H
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My boyfriend and i have been going out for three months and it has been perfect. At the beginning of our relationship i told him that im not interested in having sex before marriage and if he thinks hes going to get that from me then we shouldnt start a relationship. He said thats not what he wants, he just wants me. But now i feel like he really wants to have sex and because im not giving in i think he is cheating on me. Usually he comes to my house and hangs out with me and watches movies but he hasn’t done that at all this week and today when i asked him if he was coming over he said yes and after about an hour he texted back and said he was sleepy and said sorry baby and didnt come any more after i know that he was sleeping all day. Does he love me? Is he cheating on me? Should i give him some? Should i leave him? or was he really just tired and couldn’t make it? Also it seems like everytime i ask him to come see me he is always doing something else or going somewhere. I really love him and dont know what to say or do
Hello,
I would be really great full if you could help…
I’ve been with my boyfriend, Mick, for almost two years. Around three years before we started dating we had already been together but back then he had anger problems and we would always fight. I broke up with him after deciding enough was enough. Later I started dating again with a different guy. After I broke up with him Mick kept asking me out, talking to me while being very nice, and saying he loved me….
Eventually I said yes and things have been so much better than our first time but there are problems. We have gone through most of our fights and he has apologised for all the threats he said, of course I forgave him and we both tried to put the past behind…. However during a trip I went abroad leaving him behind, there I had another guy, who was part of the group, trying to touch me and get me to be his girlfriend. I had no idea what to do and always tried to reject him nicely until it got to the point that I really needed help, but Mick refused to listen. Every night I was abroad (I was away for over a week) he said he was busy or he had people round. Normally I would be fine but every night and him refusing to give me a time to call or even an answer for help was really confusing me and not something he would usually do. I know he is skint for cash at times so I always offer to call….
When I got back I found out I had a tumor and was going through a really rough time. When I needed him most, when I was scared and in pain before and after the operation he wasn’t there…. He said he was busy… He didnt even text or call….
That really hurt.
Finally a week or so he admitted he made no effort and as usual I forgave him. Eventually I got to tell him about the guy on the trip and Mick was furious with him. But this wasn’t the first time the guy had tried to hit on me, he did so the first time Mick and me were dating, it wasn’t as bad but when I told Mick about him Mick said ‘just send him sexy photos and that will keep him happy’ (this was when me and M first dated)…. Once again I mentioned this to Mick and he said he didn’t take me seriously about the first time….
Sadly I just can’t seem to get the same spark as I did with my first love, I have no romantic feelings towards him now but I just can’t get the same feeling or better. Maybe just Im just selfish and love Mick in a lust form…. He is a great kisser though….
Now I’ve met a guy who people say likes me. I think I like him abit too but I can’t see myself leaving Mick. I’m afraid I won’t do any better… He says he loves me every night (A part from when he is busy), knows everything about me, tells me everything and accepts me for who I am (but when I want to change my appearance or wear makeup he doesn’t like it), and he even planned the future we’ll have together… However I feel like he is embarrassed of me, he refuses to add me on Facebook because he said he doesn’t like it, but he asked me to get it because it would be easier to talk (my mum says he might be hiding something, which isn’t helping and I shouldn’t be supposed if he cheats….) Near the start of our second try another girl called Jade spent the whole day with him holding hands and kissed him. He said he told her to leave after she kissed him but was angry I said he shouldn’t have gone round holding he hand in the first place!…. I just don’t know what I should do anymore… when I need Mick the most, he is never there…
If you could answer soon I would be so relived. My health isn’t in good form once again- due to stress and I am so desperate for an answer.
Thank you for reading. C
Hi Claudia,
I do not fully understand some parts of your message, however I think you are bonded to Mick because of a long history with him. It’s difficult to leave him although you do not have any spark for him anymore and he seems to be hiding something. You also seem to have some other options but you are also having trouble with your health.
I am not able to give a full reply now, however I think it is important to look after your health first apart from any man who may stress and complicate the situation.
Secondly I suggest you go back to your original principles of leaving anyone who do not treat you with the love and respect you deserve. Mick may love you but he also takes yo forgranted.
If you will like some coaching in this area do get in touch via help[at]hiltonsamuel.com
Remember to change the [at] to @
Hilton
Hi Hanna,
It would be a major mistake for you to relent on your moral principle. Although this may seems counter productive the best move at this point is to step back from him and give him space. Try to enjoy yourself with other friends without being too dependent on him.
He will soon get the message that you are a woman of great principle and begin to value and respect you more.
For further help do contact me on help[at}hiltonsamuel.com
H
Im separated with my exhusband not yet annulled ..Now Im on my longdistance relationship i meet my boyfriend in a chatroom for 1 year and 4 months since weve meet in chatroom online tell now theres no changes at all when it comes to communicating each other through skype;magicjack calls and while his on work if he had a breaktime he called me to check on me if im alright,after his worked his already online in skype we talk, eat together and sleep together while on cam to see each othere what were doing or what our habbits while sleeping especially on his offduty our bonding watching movies spend time together thats our daily rotain with my boyfriend for 1 year and a months ..Now his planning to meet me in person im so excited he want me to be his side forever but the first thing to do i need to be free totally to be annualed someday..Theres a time he told me that he will help me to be free to pay together all the expenses for my annualment, but now he changed,he told me that this is my problem and only me can fixed everything without his help.He knew my situation that i dont have work and have no enough money for this..I have lots of question in my mind please help me…
* what should i do now?
* Does my boyfriend love me real?
* Do you think my bofriend have a responsible for this , to help each other when it comes to a problem like my annualment ,if he like me to be free and be together forever?
Now im giving him a space to think everything cuz were just arguing this things..I dont know what to do.. please help me please ..
Hello Hilton,
Whelp here goes nothing!
I have been talking to this guy for 6 months. He lives in Brooklyn and I live in Syracuse, NY. We started dating about 2 months ago. He told me 3 months into us talking that “I would fall in love with him” and he said when I do he will be ready to take all my love. So I did!! We use to talk on the phone for hours and text all day long. Now we don’t due to his job. He told me he’s working so when I come to see him I’ll be able to enjoy myself. He supports me in whatever I am pursing and he always listens to my problems and gives me suggestions. My only issue at this point is knowing if this is all real. He’s not very expressive when it comes to his feelings. He told me in the beginning that he is better at showing me rather than telling me. So when I see him I’m expecting the FIREWORKS because that is how I feel about him. He hasn’t said “I love you” to me first. I was the first to say it to him and I said it 3x after that. I don’t care who says it first, sometimes I feel like I’m chasing him and not the other way around. I know he cares about me because he always encourages me to be a “better me”. When we got into an argument I was ready to end things between us, but he kept explaining himself. NOW, I believe if a man is done with you he will not argue with you because that is a way of showing you he still cares. SO I don’t know, I love him, I just want to make sure THIS is real…..HELP ME H!!!!
Hi Bubbles,
Based on your letter I get the impression that you have not physically met each other. I strongly suggest that you do not get carried away until you have met and spent signicant time together. I also see that you have strong “FIREWORKS” feelings. This can easily lead to getting involved sexually too soon. If I were you I would avoid this as it can seriously impact on the development of a wonderful relationship.
He does sound as if he cares and this can be the start of somethng wonderful for any relationship. I f you need coaching on how you can make this work do get in contact on help[at}hiltonsamuel.com
Talk soon
Hilton
Hi Charyfel,
Actually it is always best to totally, completely and legally separate from your current husband before getting involved with some one else.Your boyfriend has broken his promise to help you and that is bad, however, it is really your responsibility and not his.
Men do go through cycles of love and this may be a time when he may be having second thoughts. However you have done the right thing to give him space to think. when he has processed the situation he will come back. Be patient and give it time. In the mean time focus on your annulment or divorce so that you can be free to proceed with your life.
Hilton
Bubbles!
Thank you Hilton!
Just to touch on your comment about “having sex too soon”. We’ve discussed having sex and he told me that “he would be lying through his teeth if he told me he wouldn’t jump on me when he sees me”. Now, I do have strong feelings for him and I know having sex too soon can alter the course of a potentially wonderful relationship. I guess I’m silly enough to think that he won’t be as interested in me if we don’t. Of course if that happens I saved myself from a broken heart, but I know when we see one another sparks will fly. I’m not sure how I should approach that situation when it arrives.
What do you think Mr.H?
Hi Bubbles
I can’t exactly tell you what to do, however I can say that men respect women who have borders and principles. They also enjoy Things that don’t come too easily. One suggestion is to admit that you too have strong feelings but you only want to share yourself within the context of a strong committed relationship and you would prefer to wait. Most men would respect you more for this, even though they may try and test you.
Be firm but gentle
H
Bubbles,
Thank-you!
I know I am being tested at this point. We’ve spoken about having sex so I know he is probably expecting for it to happen. Most likely we’ll probably end-up being friends because I don’t live there and he has been”waiting” for what will be 8 months, but when I see him it will be our FIRST real encounter with one another. I want to feel him out before we take that next step. I have only been with one guy (sexually) so as you can see it takes a lot for me to take that next step. I believe the anticipation, FIREWORK emotions play a factor because I have built-up emotions, but I know if he lived here I wouldn’t have sex with him. So the “long distance” relationship will probably become problematic. He always tells me he’s working. For example, he told me this past Friday that he does not have to work this weekend and when we got off the phone Friday he told me he would call me on Saturday… he never called me or text me at all. Now it’s Sunday and I called him earlier and he didn’t answer and I text him no reply. So I don’t want to have sex with him and he keeps up this pattern of inconsistency. I am starting to reconsider a lot of things. I don’t feel like his girlfriend, I feel like a person he’s maintaining. Huh!!!
I dated this guy for about 1 month then I broke up with him. I felt like he didn’t really like me. Plus we never hung out, it was like we weren’t even dating. After about 3 months of continusly talking and arguing, we are dating again. We’ve been dating for 1 month. At first, we both told each other we loved each other continusly. We hung out all the time. It was great. But then summer came and there’s no longer time for me. Weird right? Instead, he choices to spend his day fishing with friends or working. ( I understand that he has to work.) But shouldn’t I be invited to go fishing? He knows I like to fish. We’re back to the no hanging out. It’s like he’s scared to be around me or maybe he’s nervous. But he shouldn’t be. Everytime I try to talk to him about it, it ends up in arguing. I love him with all my heart and I don’t want to lose him again. What do I do?
Hiya, my boyfriend has a career in dentistry and is exteremly busy he goes gym and has a really religious muslim family, he spends most of his time at the gym or worki g but trys his hardest to see me as much as he can, weve been dating over a year, and he messages me all the time and helps me with my family problems and with career advice also budgeting and everything our sex is great, we have fun together he cuddles me and kisses me and tells me noone else can have me and im so pretty. We have our downs because im extremely emotional wich annoys him alot. Does he love me or should i move on
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two year. Hes a seeer guy. Very nice and loving. Hes not so romantic either and we don’t really go out. We more just hang out at my house. We talk about getting married and what well name out kids see I’m only 19 and he’s 20. I know we r young. Its our first serious relationship andhhe’s always telling me all this things about the future and including me in in….one thing when he started dating he instantly wanted to meet my parent. I no way did I had ever planned on him meeting them but I thought it was a good idea. As for me I still haven’t met his parents 🙁 when I bring it up he just says yes that one day or hell be like I do want u to meet them but he doeant wanna take me bcus his parents r those type of people that like to talk about everyone. My bf had met kost of my famiy. Hes gone to family parties birthdays and all that but when he has a family thing I’m never invited and then he brings up the words “u should had been there babe” and it brakes my heart. We once were at the store and see his brother, he tried hiding from him and stepped a bit awat from me. What do do? Is it normal for guys to be like this
I am really worried. My boyfriend and I are a relatively new couple, but we seem to be great and a power couple 🙂 the only problem is that the term is almost over and we won’t see each other much over holiday… I am going to try my hardest to keep us alive, but that’s not the issue. Before we started dating, he had mentioned to me as a friend that he liked his neighbor’s cousin. I am pretty sure that it was a cover up to hide that he liked me, but I am worried because the cousin is visiting over holiday and she will be next door all break and I probably will not see him as much. I try totrust him, but its really hard because I am unwillingly jealous. How can I make sure he stays true, or discreetly tell him to stay away from her?
Hi Bubbles,
Yes long distance relationship can be very difficult because you are not there to know what the person is doing. You can only guess and your guesses may be right or wrong.
You need to tell him how you are feeling and why you have these feelings.
H
Emily,
It does seem as though that he has a problem with you meeting his family. I am not sure why he may be doing this, usually some people are not very convinced about their relationship so they avoid introducing their partner to thier family.
H
Jade
It does seem as though he loves you.
H
Hi Mere,
I understand that you want to spend time with him, but arguing will only push him further away. Men sometimes go through cycles of love.
Ask him to suggest times you can be together rather than demanding it. Paradoxically giving people space can increase their capacity to love you more.
I would recommend you check out Micheal’s work on how to capture a man’s heart
H
Okay so ive been dating ths guy for a little over a month and I really have real feelings for him. But the other night on Monday (Memorial Day) there was this other girl there. I couldnt go but today I came to my bestfriends house and her brother was talking about the party and saying that my boyfriend admitted to likeing that pther girl… But his bestfriend said otherwise and refused it. What dp I do? 🙁
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating almost 4 months now and we’ve kissed twice. Nothing big, sweet or spectacular…. Just kiss and me pull back. I love him and he knows that. He does all of the things mentioned above, (yes, ALL twelve) and I keep being a chicken and backing away at the last second. Anything you can do to help me not be so shy Hilton?
Hi Halogirl,
While it is ideal that your boyfirend has only eyes for you, there will be times he will see and maybe like other pretty girls, even married men see other attractive women. As long as he doesn’t act on his attraction and cheat on you it is OK. I know you may feel a but threatened but don’t over react as it may drive him away and into the other girls arms.
Hilton
Hi Soshy,
You seem young and inexperienced and this may be part of problem. Some people shy away because they have had bad experiences in the past. What ever the reason it is best to have a discussion with him about your true feelings and reasons. |If he loves you he will understand and be patient with you.
Hilton
The past two years I have been involved with a boy who sadly, does not live in the same state as me. When we first met, he had a girlfriend and I was alright with that since of course, we were just friends. After a while, him and his girlfriend broke up and I was there to comfort him. Along the few months of me being there and comforting him, just as a friend, he confessed he had feelings for me. In the moment I wasn’t so sure if I felt the same about him but after a while of getting to actually know each other, I fell for him. I mean, I really, really, fell hard for him. But at some point, a friend of mine got ahold of his number and started texting him. At first, I thought they were just having nice friendly conversations until one day, my friend told me that she and my “lover” had sent some dirty messages between eachother and she even sent a few dirty photos; he didn’t send any photos (that I know of). I was furious of course but what hurt me was that she told her exactly, “Lets just keep this between us, alright? Don’t tell Matti.” I was hurt and heart broken and I even distant myself away from him for a while. I confronted him about it and he did admit to it, which I thought saved me the time of calling him a liar if he had denied. It’s been a while and I’ve pushed the whole thing behind us and currently now we are in somewhat of a relationship. The only thing though, could he be sending dirty messages and flirting with other girls whom I don’t know? I mean, he tells me he loves me and what not and of course, I believe it. But just that incident causes me to believe that I may not be the only one. Any advice? Can I call him a cheater or call him my lover?
Hi Matti,
When your trust is betrayed it is hard to trust fully again. You will always have doubts and suspicions in your mind. He has to earn your trust this time. He may need to be totally transparent with you by showing you his texts, emails, facebook accounts etc. If he does that after a while your confidence in him will come back again.
Hilton
I don’t no what I should do anymore I’m with this guy we have been together for a bit know he said he loves me and care about me and he will never hurt me or lie to me but he did he was talking to this girl and I told him I don’t like when he talks to her and he said he will never text her again and yet I show his cell and he was texts her again and he told me he was not going to so he just lie to me and I ask him about 7 days a go if he was talking to her and he said nope and and it is on the pohne he was talking to her again
me and my boyfriend have been together for a while now and he tells his friends all about me and always wants to hang out and brag about me but he is really mean to my friends. what does that mean?? is he trying to keep me for himself and get rid of my friends??? does he not really like me and want to destroy me and my friends??? why is me bragging about me but getting rid of my friends???
i have a bf that does all the things that are mentioned in the list i am sorry lucky to have him 🙂
Hi Crystal
If lying is a deal breaker for you, you will have to decide whether or not you can continue the relationship. It is important that you stick to your moral principles or he will end up not respecting you.
Hilton
Hi Nicole,
Usually friends do have a lot of influence on us and it may be he is trying to break the influence they have on you. This can be dangerous as may be linked to a desire to control you. You may want to have a discussion with him about how you feel about it.
Hilton
Me & my boyfriend been together for a year and two months now, and in that time, I’ve cheated on him..& he has cheated on me.. But the thing Is he doesn’t know that I’ve cheated on him, but I know that he cheated on me
Last year in December he cheated on me for the 1st time, I heard by my cousin that he cheated on me, I was soo angry, I didn’t know what too think, I just wanted too kill him.. I asked him, he didn’t even try & deny it, he said that & ii quote “kay ii know you don’t like it when someone lie’s too u, soo ima tell u the truth, I did cheat on you, but I’m truly sorry iit wasn’t my intention , I was drunk”.. I was soo angry, that ii dumped him that day, I felt soo bad afterwards, coz ii mean ii was soo mean towards him,when ii was the one who also cheated on him..he came back too me, i didn’t wanna take him back.. Okay the thing is, I was actually happy that we broke up, coz it gave me a chance too be with the guy, I was busy with, soo when I broke up with him that day, I got the chance too be with the guy,me & this guy dated 4 about 3months after that, but in that 3months my bf wanted me back, soo this guy left me, & ii took my bf back, but now the thing is, I don’t know why I’m feeling soo like I’m feeling now, I feel sad,even thou he makes me soo haPpy,but then again ii feel broken too, I duno what too doo, I feel that ii should tell him ii cheated on him, but my friends tells me ii shouldn’t, I should keep it a secret as long as he doesn’t know, it won’t hurt him, they right it won’t hurt him but it does hurt me,not telling him, .I wanna tell him, but I’m scared of what he might say, I don’t wanna lose him actually..
What doo you think I should doo?. Should I tell him, or should I keep quiet
hey hilton,
it’s me riya,i am commited with my boyfriend from 4 years, i love him so muchhhhhhhh and he also loves me so much…..but the problem is since 1 or 2 months i m feeling like he still loves me but not care me as he do in starting of our relation,i know their is no other girl,but i think h really don’t understands me,not even have the knowledge about things which i like most .when we were with our friends doing party i felt like he has no idea what i want,even he didn’t ask me about what i want to eat n asking to othes,please tell me what is happeneing?
Hi Riya,
Sometimes when we get near to others we think we know what them. Unfortunately you are still in the period where you are learning each other’s likes and dislikes. You need to educate him on how you feel and what you would like. Just let him know what really makes you very happy and when he does it be sure to thank and reward him
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Hi Kaylee,
Technically, if you were with someone during the time you and your boyfriend broke up then it is not cheating. However if you did while you were with your boyfriend then its cheating.
Relationship is based on trust. While it can backfire if you tell him now, I think it would be far worst if someone else tells him. It will wipe out all trust and confidence he may have in you. If you both discuss how you move on from the mistakes you have both made then it may form a better relationship even though it would cause a bit of pain in the beginning.
Hilton
me and my boyfriend have been together for a least a year when i cry he makes me fell better but ever time he is around a pretty girl he acts like im not a live hes like whos devin im not in a relationship my friend told it to me and she was the one he was hitting on i think im losing him what do i do i really like him
HI Devin,
Are you saying that your boyfriend pretends that he is not in a relationship when he is around pretty girls? If that is the case then you will need to have a conversation about it with him. Although you may be afraid of losing him, pretending that the problem doesn’t exists won’t make it go away – in fact it will only get worst.
You need to be gentle but firm in establishing your boundaries.
Hilton
He used to be all that but all of a sudden he just stopped…I thought it was me or maybe something I did he wouldn’t tell me…Everything was like going real great I mean undoubtedly one of the best relationships I ever had Big bro he practically adored me. He took care of me would call me on his lunch breaks to check on me send me cute little texts made sure I ate right like he did what NONE of my exes did. Told me he wanted to settle down and he wanted a real relationship and would always call me his queen tell all his friends, family and his coworkers about me if they wanted to hear or not he would get off work late but he would still come and spend time with me he used to go to church with me has gotten in good with my family like even my mom likes him and that’s a FIRST he was like perfect you know and it was probably my fault but as you probably did or did not know I’m celibate but God the feelings where so strong we ended up having sex and at the end I felt bad and he saw and it made him feel bad and he told me he would never do it again cause it bothered him to see that look across my faceBut there was almost a second time and I slightly initiated it but nothing really happened happenedAnyway moving on all of a sudden his texts were a lil differentHe was always too tired to come see me cause his hours kept changingAnd he had told e once before that he feels like he can’t remember anythingLike he didn’t want to go back to school because he felt like he’ll be stupid but he is going back because his mother asked him toSo anyway I kept asking and asking what was wrong thinking it was maybe something I did and he just kept staring and would be like nothing I’m just like this and I’m like no the hell your notSo Saturday night He got off late again and I said I wanted to see him and he was like yea I can come over I wnt over and he was sleep his siblings were watching a show in his room so I watched with them till they leftSo I was letting him sleep and then some female called at like 2 something but I didn’t answer cause I know how I am I would have gone off the deep endSo I got curious and I went through his phoneFirst I looked at the poem I wrote him which he loved he said it almost bought tears to his eyesThe I saw a text from some female name ValNow I know he couln’t have been talking to a nigga cause I know he wouldn’t just call another nigga beauifulSo he wrote something in creole and she gave him his address and he replied I’m outsideSo that bothered meThen I saw some of his social sites and he was flirting which I have no problem but I do have a problem when he starts invitin bitches to lay down and watch movies with himSo I woke him up and told him I need your undivided attentionI asked him Do I give you a reason to step out and he told me I don’t knowTHen I went through the whole trust spill basically saying I’m not as stupid as I look like come clean niggaThat’s when he decided to tell me that for some reason he lost feelings for me and he doesn’t understand why but he cares and like me so much he doesn’t want to lose meThen I told him about Vanessa the girlthat called and he was like he was talking to her a long time ago but said she don’t know what she want and all that then proceeded to call her and had her on speaker and honestly she sounded stupid as hell he even told her that he was having issues with me and that I can’t trust people and she had some sob storyNow I haven’t mentioned about Val yet cause things got a lil something to where he was crying and emotional I wasn crying and emotional and I’m like what the hell I got a boyfriend who can’t feel shit for me but wants me to stay and help him get his feeling back he doesn’t want to move on without mePlus he’s stressed and frustrated about workNow I don’t know what to do cause I do care for him I don’t want to lose him but what can I doI don’t want to think he’s cheating but all this look suspect but he wants to be able to say I love you again and mean hititHe wants to hold touch feel kiss me and theres feeling behind itHE said he wants to fight I’m really torn right now