How can you tell if you boyfriend is really into you? Is he playing games, messing around, taking you for a ride or does he really genuinely love you?
Here are 12 ways to tell if your boyfriend really loves you or is “just not into you”:
- He would warmly, admiringly and longingly look into your eyes, face and body from time to time.
- He would go out of his way to do little things to bring a smile on your face and make you feel happy (anything from sticking a note in your bag, buying a funny little toy or turning up on your door steps when you least expect him to).
- He would be always talking about you to his friends and family or anyone who would care to listen. Interestingly he would make you to be larger than life — Gods gift to the earth. These people will mention that they have heard about you when they meet you.
- He would want to introduce you and show you off to his friends, family and the whole world — you would be like his little trophy.
- He would always want to be with you or around you and hardly want to leave when its time for him to go.
- He hates it when people talk negatively about you and would defend you to the point of physically fighting to defend your reputation (hopefully it never comes to this. Don’t always depend on this as a proof of love).
- He avoids hurting you and if he unwittingly hurts you he apologises profusely and attempt never to let it happen again.
- Comments on how lucky he is to get a girl like you in his life.
- Compliments the way you look, the things you do and the skill/talents you display.
- Wants the best for you and encourages you to grow and develop so that you can become the best you can be.
- He is not afraid to challenge you when you are wrong or doing something that isn’t right.
- He calls, text, IM and want to meeting up with you as regularly as he can.
Ps. I just remember a couple more
- He wants know (in direct and discreet ways) what you think about him, how he looks and what he does.
- He seeks your advice and suggestions on things he is doing and decisions he wants to make.
- He takes your advice/suggestions and implements them.
- He is polite to your friends and respects your parents.
Hi Gee,
Thanks commenting.
When you first fell in love with him, you granted him your full trust. He has broken the trust you gave him, hence now he has to earn it. He needs to show by his conduct and actions that he is worthy of your love and trust.
Let me tell a secret if you make him earn your trust he will respect you forever.
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H
Hi Jennifer,
I understand exactly how you feel. You can’t stand to be without him yet its so difficult for you to stay in a relationship where you are being taken forgranted.
Yes you did the right thing. It may not feel that way because your heart is hurting. He is expecting you to come crying back to him. However you should avoid doing this at all cost. If you do he will lose all respect for you and treat you even worst than before.
I highly recommend that you become very busy and get your life together. You will become more confident as the days go by and indeed more attractive.
I have found “The Maghic of Making Up” to be one of the best programs to be help people in your situation. I recomment you have a look at it- here is the link https://www.hiltonsamuel.com/go/makingup.php
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Keep strong –
H
hmm it is too cost to me dear. any way i always respect him and always trying to be kind to him. he told me that ” I’ve never seen a girl like u ever”. These days I am not communicating with me as usual. So he told me “I know that u don’t love me as before. but I love u so much. I can not live without u. Pls give me sometimes to change. Or if u don’t love me tell I’ll go forever. It’s hard but I’ll try” don’t know what to say. tell me your ideas Hilton not others or stupid presentations. U r also a boy. what do you want from ur GF. how a GF must be?? what I should do.. be kind always.. ??? or be rude?
BUSI your boyfriend is acting that way because u was with a next guy. If u had truly loved him u wouldnt have hurt him and throw away the trust he had in you. So in a sense you did look for the way he is treating you now, cause in his mind u hurt him and he wants to hurt u back. So basically what he is going to do now is flirt alot with girls till he finds one he like and then dump you. Unless you find a way to stop it. But hes always gonna remember wat u did to him.
Hi Gee,
As a man I must say this guy is genuinely into you. Sometimes women miss golden chances at real love simply because they are not feeling the passion that they would like. Unfortunately passion is seasonal and it makes up a very small percentage of relationships. If you can, I would recommend that you create and culture real love with this guy, if not you may realize too late that you have a great opportunity and missed it.
If you need further help do contact me help[at]hiltonsamuel.com – remember to replace the brackets with @
H
Is that your e mail address?? well if it is . It doesn’t work.
Hilton thank you for your kindness. well now I’m trying to act as normal. just don’t try to hurt him. But he hurting me sometimes. And I directly tell him that you hurts me.
these days he going wherever he wants with his friends. He asked me to join to. But these days i have my exams so I’m busy with my studies. After that I think I must spend time with him. Is that right na?
well I don’t know much about boys. That’s why I am asking again and again.
I already had my first kiss with him. But that wasn’t a kiss I wanted. It wasn’t smooth. just he tries to touch my body during kissing. I tried to avoid him. but I could’t. I can not understand is it a true love kiss or he trying to connect with me so badly? I just told him that I don’t like that. I am a teacher after all. I told that I can not do this. Am I wrong? is a boy always wants to touch the girl during kissing? I am an Asian girl so i am just you know. He is the first boy who touched me.
Good advice now I know I need to dump his ass! lol
Today is a month ive been with my boyfriend, I love him so much and we expressed various of times how we think were the ones for each other.. I’m 26 hes 29. I went out drinking with a girlfriend on sunday, we got a little tipsy, he picked us up from the bar and dropped us off home. Im a handfull when I’m drunk so I said some things I shouldn’t have. Its been 4 days I haven’t seen him and he hardly texts me he doesn’t want to talk he said how I act was a turn off and hes really bothered and annoyed. . I apologized and explained what I did was wrong but he still hasn’t except my apology..is it to late to make things right?
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H
Hi Gee
Its great to see that he does actually want to include you in his social circle. Even if you are busy you may want to consider joining him at laeast once. It would give him a chance to show you off to his friends and also you can demonstrate that he taken by being by his side. You will also begin to see what types of friends he has and if you will be able to get allong with them.
There should also be private dates where you are both alone to have long chats and share your souls.
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Hi Tona
That can be a real challenge for someone to see their new girfriend junk. It may not be too late but you must do somethings right. to find out what you can do to turn things around get this program immediately.
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H
me and my boyfriend have only been dating for like less than a week,but after he asked me out,he hasn;’t really spoken to me since,my friends make rude remaerks about him,and i don’t know what to do.im only 15,but i need to know what i should do.i’m stuck in the middle,and i hate it.help!
I have a boyfriend, who i have been with about 4 months. Everytime I see him i get very nervous and sometimes feel that I’m losing interest. But when I get home, its a different story. I think about him nonstop. I dream about him a lot. Its only when I’m away from him when I feel that I really love him. He’s very passionate and caring, and I know that he doesn’t want to end the relationship and maybe loves me. I don’t think I love him, I don’t even think I have true feelings for him. What in the world is going on? Any advice or comments?
hey, ive been with my boyfriend for 4 months .. and im not sure if he truly loves me. Though he cares alot about my health and mood and all those small things and always tells me about how much he loves me and how lucky he is 2 have me . But i dont know if he is serious with me .. he doesnt want to tell his friends about me, he only told his brother and sisters. He thinks about the future alot.. about me and him, he does most of the 12 u meantioned. and he is a very honest person, I beleive he trusts me .. and i have great trust in him, he always tries 2 plan an outing for the two of us but i can never make it , and he doesnt mind that fact. im jst not sure if he really means most of his actions or is he just an amazing player, please help me.
Hey, me and my ex were together going on 6 years we were engaged to be married but called it off bc we decided we weren’t ready we took a year break and we still aren’t together we tried working on it but it seems like we just can’t get it together now we have a baby and we were still sleeping around and doing things as a couple without the title he started hanging with new friends and now he has a female friend he say they r just friends but after I found out about her he told me he would just like to be friends I should move on and maybe we will be together down the line if were meant to be together.. But he still texts me every day asking me how I am and just holding convo bout things between us.. I’m Gonna move on like he says but my question is, does he just need time to see what he wants.. Or is he really ready to move on..
Hi Esha,
When a man tells you to move on, believe him, do not try to hang on simply because he texts you everyday. In fact I would actually cut him off except for seeing his child, as contact with him will only string you along and give you false hope.
If you are interested in getting him back then you must see get this great program to shows you exactly how to get your ex-back.
Hi Emily,
Although you may feel stuck, you have many options. Dating for less than a week does not make you committed, neither are you bound to defend him.
So I say that even if you feel strongly about him, DO NOT make your life stop just because of this. Still study, go out and have fun.
Guys are funny, when they see that you are not dependent on them they may want you back.
You still have lots of life and love in you
H
Hi Paige,
It sounds as if you are more in love with the mental imaage you have of the person that the real live person – its called a crush or more specifically infatuation.
H
Hi Itgirl,
From what you have described it seems as though he genuinely loves you. No one will ever tick 100% of all the boxes but if he does most things I think you are on to a winner.
If you are thinking of perhaps getting family one day I think you would make a really good prospect. Have you ever seen this program, “how to go from girlfriend to wife” it may be a great resource for you.
If you want to consider relationship coaching contact me today help[at]hiltonsamuel.com remember to remove the bracket and put @ symbol
Talks soon
H
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years now and we kinda had a misunderstanding with one another and now he wont text me back I even tried asking his mom if he was okay and she said he’s playing his little game (xbox)! I’ve been trying to look up on the internet on different things to do with this situation but I really need some great advice that can help me through this and keep our relationship going good! I love him with all that I am and in my eyes he’s more than perfect I just want to know that he does still love me and wants to be with me? Any help???
Thanks!
Hey,
In October I moved to a city two hours away from my hometown, and recently I visited there on Friday. I decided to hang out in downtown with my friend to see that this really cute guy at my school, Nate, was there with his three best guy friends. We hung out for a couple hours then I went home and we immediately started texting. The next day (My birthday, March 30th) We met up and hung out almost all day, and after we left he called me and asked me out. Now it is monday so we have been dating for two days and I just wanna know what’s really going through his mind. If you could help me that would be awesome, Thanks!
I hve been 4 month with my bf. But now i felt that he seem veey far away from me..even he say he love me but i feel far from him..
Hi I’m 17 and I’ve been in a relationship with a boy my age for a year and a half now. We’ve always had a very solid relationship with only minor bumps along the way. Recently he has joined a school sport. Since then he has been changing. I’ve noticed small changes, like he hadn’t seen me in a week and normally he would wait for me to get there because he would be excited to see me, but I found myself waiting for him while he talked with other people. I’m sure I’m being overly sensitive, but we’ve always been priorities in eachothers lives and now I feel left behind. At the end of the day he watches the time like he’s waiting to get away from me. Has he lost interest in me?
Hello!
My name is Megan and I am in a very difficult situation. I really want to know of my boyfriend is really into me; however, it is very hard to tell because we have never met before. I live in West Virginia and he lives all the way in California. He talks about a future with me and our children. We have also talked about getting married, moving in together, and him letting me meet his son. Another twist is the age difference. He is 38 and I’m only 17. He says that he is in love with me and I know without a doubt that I am in love with him. I just really need some advice because my friends and family are not supportive at all.
Thanks for anything you can tell me!
Megan<3
Hi Kayla,
You are making a serious mistake that many people in your situation make. The guy is ignoring you and you are rewarding this type of behaviour by trying to do things to make the relationship good. In other words you are rewarding his bad behaviour, which will only backfire on you.
The thing to do is to step back from the relationship and get your life and power back.
I found this program to be very helpful in situations like yours, you may find it useful too. Check it out and see if will help you like it has other people in your position – stop your lovers rejection.
If you would like some direct coaching do contact on help[at]hiltonsamuel.com – remember to remove the backets and replace with @
H
I do not understand what you are saying MB.
Are you saying that you have no romantic feelings for him, which makes you feel disconnected?
H
Hi Megan,
At your age the best thing to do is wait! Marrying someone you have never met and moving in with him can be a real shock regardless of how strongly you feel at the moment. Wait until you have met him several times. Wait unti you are over 21 to consider marriage. If your family is not supportive then I would be very cautious if not wary of getting involved too seriously.
Feelings are not always the best indicator of what you should do. FEEL WITH YOUR HEART BUT ACT WITH YOUR HEAD!
Hilton
Hi Mackenzie,
I understand your curiousity and urge to know what he is thinking, however 2 days is not enough time to tell the personality of someone or even what he is thinking. You probably need to know him 6 months or more get to know him properly.
Hilton
Hi Meghan,
It sounds as if something or someone else is dominating his time and mind. It could be he has found new friends and for boys that age friends do take up a great deal of their time. It also could be that he does not want it to look as if you are ruling him.
It best way forward is not to make a big deal over it but give him space and try to find friends and hobbies that can make you life interesting too.
Hilton
Hi 🙂
so my boyfriend and i have been going out for 8 months and out of all my douche bags boyfriends he has been my longest 🙂 but anywho the other night we wre celebrating our 8 months and we wre playing truth or dare n i told him to tell me something truthful and he said “i funny flirt with my ex-girlfriend” and i asked y ? and he goes because you are so cute when you are jealous of other girls flirting with me.
For me, that really hurt… and what my question is does he realli love me and finds me attractive even though he funny flirts with other girls that he used to have a crush on?
thank you
Hi…. I’ve been together with my boyfriend from 15 january and we love in a hostel together and we always slept together but we never had sex but one night before going to sleep I asked him how much do you love me he said that he loves me how much I love him…….. but now we are not allowed to sleep together because of the hostel wardent its not allowed for two people to sleep together but ws used to sleep secretly but now his room is changed so we aren’t getting the chance to sleep together but…… is he really in love with me n he usually takes care of me soo much he carries me in his back wen I’m tired he takes care of me wen I’m sick..etc but he says I love u vry rarely so does he really love me ??? N how do I make go crazy over without make or lipstick and stuff….???
my boyfriend has been in jail fir the last 8 months before he went we was only together 3 or 4 months i miss him a very lot he is alot younger then me he says he love me an not gonig to leave my side when he gets relised but i cant help but think everyday that goes by is he just usein me my worse thought is that if i wait an he comes out an leaves me it will break my heart i answered yes to alot of questions above , i just dont no wt to do
Hi Amy,
In order to tell if your boyfriend really loves you, you need to look at a host of factors, not just one. However let me just mention that when someone really care for you they will avoid consistently doing things that cause you pain and hurt.
H
Hi Kathy,
Men display their love and commitment in ways that women tend to miss. In other words women want love to be demonstrated in ways they would show love. Women tend to question the motive of men if they don’t see the love signals they want. Based on what you have said it seems that he does love you even if he rarely verbalise it.
If you really want to find out how to make him go crazy over you, you may want to check out “How to be irresistible to men”
Hi Gem,
Usually deep inside we know what the answer is to our dilemma. Sit down and write a list of advantages of waiting and also a list of disadvantages. Then read each one and quietly ask yourself the question: If you had a daughter in your position, what would you tell her to do?
Remember, feel with your heart but act with your head.
Hilton
Me and my boy friend have been together for a year and three months. Things moved really fast and I got pregnant, eight months later are daughter was born still birth. Its been really hard for us lately we argue a lot over little things.Back in December I found text messages to someone else and that he was talking to his ex girlfriend. Now I’m constantly worried as to whether hes telling me the truth and if I truely am the only girl he loves. In my plan for the future hes the man I’m gonna marry there’s so many wonderful times we’ve had I cant ever imagine living without him. I’m really worried that I’m gonna end up pushing him away with my worry or that my fears will come true.
Okay, so I’m 17 and so is my boyfriend, we have been dating since December 21sr 2012, and I’m his first girlfriend..since he’s not supposed to date untill he’s 18..
With that being said…his parents don’t know we’re dating either. His younger sister Knows…and all of our friends know though. And he calls me beautiful and adorkable and all that…but it’s been nearly 4 months and he hasn’t kissed me yet. What do i do?
Hi Sabrina,
I totally understand what you are going through. Your fears can indeed cause you to act in ways that can impact the relationship negatively.
One of the things you need to do is accept that you have no controll over what he does or who he interacts with. Secondly (as hard as it may seem) you need to give him the space and freedom to make his own choices without getting too emotional/clingy about it.
Let him know that you would like to be with him but if he wants to chose someone else you will accept it. That may seem a bit counter-intuitive however giving someone freedom releases them to do the right thing.
I have found this program very helpful in situations like your. Check it out and see “What men secretly want”
Hilton
If I were you I would WAIT and not rush things
H
My boyfriend of 6 years, dosen’t love me 🙁
Hi Gisella,
That is very sad to hear and I feel it for you. If you would like to re-unite in love with your boyfriend this guy has 3 steps you can use to rekindle the passionate love you once had. Some people who were in a similar situation to you have found this solution very helpful. Click here to find out how to reunite with your boyfriend.
H
I been with my boyfriend for about ten months now. I don’t know or think he loves me yet. He sees me everyday but I feel that is not enough because he doesn’t want me to meet with his friends or his family. He tells me he like me but does he really. I am so confused. He met my family but not my friends yet. I talked to him to show me that u care about me by giving me hugs and kiss at times he will show me but not enough. Am I asking to much. I give so much affection to my man and I know I love him and like him a lots. What should I do. Should I go on with my life.
ok well i have a boyfriend and we just started dating for like 2 weeks now and he use to hang out with me all the time but now its like i don’t exist and he won’t say hey or nothing and this all started just because there are these things called jelly bracelets and it was black and he wanted me to break it and i didn’t because if i would have broke it then the black means i had to have se* with him i didn’t break it and now apparently i’m invisible and my friends are saying that me and him are just in the middle of a fight but i’m not sure wat should i do
I really cant tell if my boyfriend really loves me because he rides my morning and afternoon bus but so does my Best friend Cassie and me and Cassie are so close I call her my sister but he always says he loves me and always will but he makes Cassie cries sometimes and so I came to the point and came out and told him ” Garrett if u and your stupid little friends don’t leave my sissy alone I will break up with you”! but after I told him that he started tell everyone to shut up! so I felt happy but * 10 minutes earlier* we were talking and long story short he says he loves me and that he always will and blah anyways every morning he sits with me and we hold hands and I told him” just kiss me all ready please” he goes “no baby not here lol” so I was like um k never mind but he sticks up for me people call me ugly and stupid and he punched a kid for me XD but he did the most amazing thing yesterday was are 3 week anniversary and I thought he forgot so I gave him a note saying baby you forgot what’s today he goes no it is are 3 week anniversary I said awwww I love you baby you remembered he said why wouldn’t and he gets me rings and jewelry and I thought they were fake so last time we broke up on jan.25 my birthday were kind of on and off we just stayed together 3 weeks since then but anyways I burnt it all with my friends and I burnt a necklace I thought was fake and diamonds fell out and I thought uh oh and he still doesn’t know about it but he can be a jerk sometimes so what do ya’ll think does Garrett like me?
Hi Jan,
You show love by being affectionate; that seems to be your love language. Note everyone demonstrate their love in the same way, maybe your boyfriend is showing his love in a way that you are not taking account of.
Secondly he may not be ready to introduce you to his family, don’t force it. Relax it is going to be OK, give it some more time. Just let him know that is something that you will like to see happen.
H
Hi Selena,
It is important that you maintain your integrity. If you do not want to do something don’t. He needs to understand that you have your own mind.
Congratulations. If he really loves you he will come back some time. Relax.
H
Well my best friend introduced me to her boyfriend, and we started talking, so when we first started talking we talked a lot about things and yeah… My best friend gave him my number and he calls me beautiful and says “I love you” a lot. We’ve only been texting for 1 day and we were sexting behind her back.. What does this mean? He doesnt say I love you to my best friend as much as he does to me. Please tell me what this means?
Hi Tiffany,
Just to say that this behavior is immoral and lacks integrity. It seems as if he is hitting on you despite the fact he is going out with your best friend. My suggestion is to break it off before things turn nasty, as your friend will find out sooner or later. Delete his sexting pictures and ask him to delete yours. DO NOT continue doing this as it provides concrete evidence that you are involved with him. Your friend may stumble on these pictures and everything will get messy.
Hilton
I literally cried when I read this my boyfriend only does about half these things but I think are only for show this is really hurtful